Moving can be a stressful time for any family, and when children are involved, the challenges can feel even greater. To help you manage the process, we spoke to Psychiatrist Dr. Laura Comrie, who specialises in family transitions. She offers valuable advice on how to keep children engaged and help them adjust to the big changes that come with moving. Below, she shares five practical tips to make moving with children easier, from packing strategies to emotional support.
- Involve Them in the Packing Process
One of the simplest ways to engage your children during a move is by involving them in the packing process. “Children often feel anxious when they see their belongings packed away,” says Dr. Comrie. “By giving them tasks and letting them participate, they feel more in control.”
Here are a few suggestions to make packing fun for kids:
- Turn packing into a game: Create a treasure hunt by asking your children to find specific items to pack.
- Personalise their boxes: Let them decorate their moving boxes with stickers or drawings.
- Pack a special ‘first-night’ box: Work together to fill a box with their favourite toys and comfort items for the first night in the new home.
“This can help reduce their anxiety and make them feel part of the process,” she adds.
- Keep a Consistent Routine
Dr. Comrie emphasises the importance of routine during stressful transitions. “Children find comfort in routine, and maintaining regular activities like mealtimes and bedtimes can give them a sense of security during the chaos of a move,” she explains.
Try to keep the daily schedule as consistent as possible, especially around sleeping and eating. “Even if everything else is in flux, having these touchpoints helps children feel grounded.”
- Pack a Moving-Day Survival Kit
Moving day can be overwhelming for both parents and children, which is why Dr. Comrie suggests creating a “moving-day survival kit” for your kids. “This kit should include items that keep them entertained and comfortable throughout the day,” she advises.
Some ideas for the kit:
- Portable toys or games: Tablets, books, or small toys can keep children occupied.
- Snacks and drinks: Healthy snacks will keep their energy levels up.
- Comfort items: Pack a favourite blanket or stuffed animal to help them feel secure.
“Having a few distractions handy can really make a difference on moving day,” says Dr. Comrie.
- Help Them Understand the Move
Moving is an emotional experience, particularly for children who might not fully understand why it’s happening. “Take the time to explain the move to your children in simple terms,” Dr. Comrie recommends. “Focus on the exciting parts, like a new room or fun things to do in the area.”
For younger children, consider reading storybooks about moving, which can help them process their feelings. Older kids may benefit from visiting the new home beforehand or seeing pictures to help ease their concerns. “The more you can involve them in what’s coming, the more secure they’ll feel.”
- Allow Time for Goodbyes
Saying goodbye to friends and familiar places can be tough for children, so it’s important to create space for this. “Organising a small farewell party or playdate is a great way to help children feel a sense of closure,” suggests Dr. Comrie. “It also reassures them that it’s okay to feel sad about leaving.”
Encouraging children to stay in touch with old friends through video chats or letters can also provide continuity. “These small gestures can make the emotional transition smoother for children, helping them feel connected even after the move,” she explains.
Conclusion: A Smooth Move with Kids
Moving with kids doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By involving them in packing, keeping a routine, preparing a moving-day kit, and addressing their emotional needs, you can help your children adjust to this big change. Dr. Comrie’s advice highlights how these small steps can ease the stress and make the transition smoother for everyone.
If you need further support with your upcoming move, Doree Bonner International offers expert packing, removals and storage solutions to ensure your move goes as smoothly as possible. Contact us to discuss how we can help with your family’s move.
Dr. Laura Comrie consults in the UK online and can be contacted via her website: Mind Kind
